100 Things to Do for Your Wife After Childbirth

So, your wife just brought in a wonderful gift, a beautiful addition to the house, which is a blessing to the entire family, as you know.

She must have gone through so much from conception, to carrying to full term, and now finally the baby or babies is/are here.

Sometimes it’s difficult, while other times it’s a bit of a stretch even for the most experienced mothers.

There are several things you, as a husband, can do for your wife after childbirth, among which are: emotional support, household help, and child care, to name a few.

Your wife needs you now more than ever, and it’s also time for you to show her that you are truly committed and a unit and that she is not alone in bringing your child(children) to the world.

So many husbands will think the wife should handle everything, but this shouldn’t be the case.

Right now, she is weak, she feels overwhelmed, she’s lost a lot of her body in the process of bringing your child(children) here, and she probably feels less attractive.

However, your basic duty is to make her feel right and beautiful.

Care for her, be her stand-in helper.

Therefore, to help support her slow but sure recovery, here are 100 thoughtful things you can do for your wife after childbirth.

These are practical and loving things you can do as a sign of the celebration of her strength and also a way to foster the nurturing of your bond as a couple and parents whether new or old timers.

Emotional Support

1. Tell her she’s doing an amazing job.

2. Remind her she’s beautiful—even when she’s tired.

3. Be patient with her mood swings and emotions.

4. Offer daily words of encouragement.

5. Let her cry when she needs to, without fixing it.

6. Hold her without expectations.

7. Sit and listen—truly listen—when she talks.

8. Validate her feelings.

9. Reassure her that she’s not alone.

10. Celebrate small wins (like a good nap or a calm baby moment).

Household Help

11. Do the laundry without being asked.

12. Cook meals—or order her favorite takeout.

13. Clean the bathroom.

14. Vacuum and mop the floors.

15. Take care of dishes—always.

16. Keep clutter under control.

17. Make the bed and tidy the bedroom.

18. Stock the pantry and fridge.

19. Take out the trash regularly.

20. Create a peaceful home atmosphere.

Baby Care

21. Change diapers often.

22. Rock the baby to sleep.

23. Handle night feedings if using bottles.

24. Learn how to soothe the baby.

25. Attend doctor visits with her.

26. Take over baby duties so she can nap.

27. Bathe the baby.

28. Keep track of feeding/diaper schedules.

29. Burp the baby after feedings.

30. Help with tummy time and development.

Her Self-Care

31. Encourage her to rest.

32. Run her a warm bath.

33. Buy her postpartum care items (pads, creams, etc.).

34. Give her a gentle massage.

35. Watch the baby so she can shower in peace.

36. Help her get dressed in comfy clothes.

37. Make her a cup of tea or coffee.

38. Help her get some sunlight/fresh air.

39. Encourage her to journal or express her thoughts.

40. Take her for a relaxing walk or drive.

Mental & Emotional Health

41. Encourage therapy if she’s overwhelmed.

42. Learn about postpartum depression and anxiety.

43. Normalize her feelings of exhaustion or sadness.

44. Be her biggest emotional cheerleader.

45. Keep an eye out for signs she needs help, and get it.

Romance & Connection

46. Say “I love you” every day.

47. Leave little notes or texts of appreciation.

48. Kiss her forehead often.

49. Gently cuddle her when she’s open to it.

50. Compliment her body lovingly.

51. Plan a date night at home.

52. Surprise her with a gift or flowers.

53. Dance with her in the kitchen.

54. Watch her favorite show together.

55. Make her laugh.

Support Her Sleep

56. Let her sleep in while you take baby duty.

57. Take shifts at night.

58. Create a relaxing bedtime environment.

59. Turn off your phone to avoid waking her.

60. Be quiet and gentle when she’s resting.

Logistics & Planning

61. Handle paperwork (birth certificate, insurance, etc.).

62. Pick up prescriptions or supplies.

63. Arrange meal delivery or a meal train.

64. Book follow-up doctor appointments.

65. Handle calls and visitors so she can rest.

66. Get groceries and essentials.

67. Install or check the car seat safety.

68. Set up a comfortable feeding station.

69. Keep the diaper bag stocked.

70. Organize baby clothes and supplies.

Communication & Understanding

71. Ask how she’s feeling every day.

72. Ask how you can help.

73. Speak kindly and avoid criticism.

74. Talk about your shared goals as parents.

75. Share your feelings to build a connection.

Family & Bonding

76. Take family photos.

77. Make a keepsake box or memory book.

78. Talk to the baby together.

79. Celebrate baby milestones together.

80. Encourage skin-to-skin time with both parents.

Include Others Thoughtfully

81. Gently manage in-laws and visitors.

82. Ask her comfort level before inviting guests.

83. Protect her space from overwhelming company.

84. Set visiting hours and rules together.

85. Handle thank-you notes or messages.

Help Her Recharge

86. Give her time alone to read, nap, or relax.

87. Plan a short getaway or spa day when she’s ready.

88. Create a quiet space just for her.

89. Support her hobbies, even in short bursts.

90. Encourage her to reconnect with friends.

Long-Term Support

91. Keep showing up, even months later.

92. Help create a daily routine.

93. Support her choices in parenting.

94. Be an equal parenting partner, not just a helper.

95. Reassure her she’s still herself, just evolving.

96. Help her ease back into work or other goals.

97. Encourage her dreams beyond motherhood.

98. Appreciate her openly, every single day.

99. Celebrate her strength often, not just once.

100. Love her fully, through every phase.